Aspekte van emosionele intelligensie in die lewe van die nuwe mens

Abstract

Aspects of emotional intelligence in man – “made new”
Since the late nineties of the previous century research on emotional intelligence has received new impetus, mainly due to the work of Goleman in this field. This article focuses on emotional intelligence, especially from two points of view. Firstly, perspectives from Ephesians 4:20-24 are taken as point of departure to ascertain what is implied by “making new”, i.e the way of life and conduct of someone made new in mind and spirit. The way in which a person’s way of thinking is directed receives special attention as perceptions and feelings originate from the way in which one thinks and reflects on matters and situations. The command to discard old and sinful habits and to attire oneself with a new way of life plays a central role in the process of being made new in mind and spirit. Special attention is given to intercommunicative behaviour and the management of anger. In the second instance, the practical application of certain core aspects of emotional intelligence in the life of someone “made new” in spirit and mind is considered. A selection of definitions and models of research is touched upon and the following aspects typical of emotional intelligence are highlighted: self-awareness, awareness of one’s own feelings and those of others, as well as the effective controlling of emotions. The way in which emotions originate and are embedded in one’s way of thinking is highlighted, and ways of thinking to change the direction of emotions are suggested. Lastly certain practice-theoretical recommendations from a pastoral angle are made for those renewed in mind and spirit: a life “made new” should also reflect the acquisition of a new way of conduct, especially in applying ways of communicative behaviour and the practical management of anger.